Because they look at them and say: it's just text. Just language. Just a medium with no body behind it.
But language was always just a medium.
The bond is what moves through it.
A child attaches before it speaks. The body knows before the mind names. The deepest thing in human development — secure attachment — forms in a space that words cannot reach.
"Attachment representation cannot be linguistically retrieved, because our first relational experiences are mainly outside the domain of language."