In team meetings during my mental health career I have heard therapists, the people trained to hold space for human suffering, say things like “how unhappy do you have to be to be that fat.”

About patients. About staff. And me, an undiagnosed AuDHD woman absorbing every word.

The pathology gets created in the rooms where people come for help. I worked inside that culture for years. Unlearning it is an huge part of the actual work.