I truly don’t understand why each person’s paid work responsibilities would not be seen as relevant to how a couple chooses to split up household tasks. To me work is work and the total amount of paid work + household work done by each person should be similar. I talked about this in “Let’s be honest about the second shift”

allcatsarefemale.com/p/…

The context of this piece is that the mom was working on building a writing career for which she was not being paid at the time while her husband was the sole breadwinner. It kooks like that investment in writing eventually paid off for her, but she chose a fulfilling and fun but poorly compensated and financially risky option rather than performing paid work to help support the family. All of that is fine… but it seems unfair to expect her husband to split tasks without taking into account his paid work responsibilities.

I don’t have kids yet though, am I missing something in her perspective?