The tradcath thing seems to be newer than redpill, at least on the Internet (obviously some form of it goes back way further), so I'm guessing some fraction of people were first one and then the other.

Most people are less annoying IRL because non-sociopaths will feel bad about hurting you, plus you have social cues. I wouldn't take the Internet that seriously. A lot of people are more successful online than they are IRL. It's fun to talk about stuff you can't find a person in real life to discuss with (or would be fired if you did), but it's a very selected view of humanity and the people who become internet famous are often just as abnormal as the ones who become real famous.

Like, any random woman is expected to cook for them? I only thought that was expected if you were in a relationship. The 'make me a sandwich' is an antifeminist insult. Or not. I don't spend a lot of time with guys like this so I wouldn't know.

Haha, nothing wrong with having standards. ;) I have to say I'm glad I wasn't raised Christian then, given my lack of athleticism and valor I would have just gone incel. (Or more likely become an annoying internet atheist first.) It is interesting to see some confirmation of the old double standard that women don't mind a loose guy if he's high-value enough, however that woman defines it. (Though I assume you expect him to quit after marriage.)

I guess fairness is less of a thing with you guys and it's more about adherence to the gender ideal, but say he had been promiscuous and didn't care if you had been but wanted to settle down?

And, why would I propose to someone I didn't want to marry? Seems kind of cruel.