A hack for getting your partner to start to understand the mental load you’re carrying:

Start putting sticky notes on everything.

Is it super annoying and a little petty? Yep. But you know what? It works. We’re not chasing perfection here, we’re chasing progress.

Bins need to go out? Sticky note. Dishes need cleaning? Sticky note. Lunchboxes need to be packed? Sticky note.

It’s a visual cue that immediately shows the cognitive labour that goes into managing a household.

Should we have to do this? Absolutely not, but it’s a great starting point if you’re wanting to see some changes in your relationship.

Try this for a weekend and see how quickly things change.