Cooking dinner got twisted into a fault of mine because the food was too hot and he burned his mouth. The first time he yelled asking why it was so hot…I didn’t know how to respond…my answer was…because you use heat to cook? Didn’t you see I just took it out of the oven and the steam coming off the plate? I learned to let his plate cool down before putting it on the table. Another example of how a narcissist controls. Now it’s a joke. My kids and I laugh and say we have to use ice to cook!