It took me a long time to realize that I wasn't sad, I was mad. Sadness is how I packaged my anger to make it more palatable for people.

Anger is hard to get in touch with, especially as a woman, but it is ultimately a productive emotion. It helps you identify your wounds and take action. It’s also kind of optimistic. I forget where I read this, but “someone who is angry they lost their keys believes we should all live in a world where keys don’t get lost.”