I have several gay coworkers and our main topic of conversation is....yardwork and other trevails of homeownership. Because they're middle aged or approaching that age, normal boring people. Which was the goal of acceptance--normal life. It strikes me that a lot of the activist noise is from people who can't accept that at some point you have to grown up and become a self-supporting productive adult. And yeah, sometimes that's boring. But stable boring is good. A perpetual angry teenager is not.