I wouldn't get too worked up over the word.

It's important to me to keep my friendships asexual; I've had guys I met regularly for sex but in all my life there has only been one I had any social life with. But the number of nominally heterosexual friends who wanted to have sex with me has been frankly depressing (and most of them wanted to be the bottom).

A lot of straight men harbor homosexual desires and no few have given in to them. And I've known several gay men who were married to women. I didn't ask how much of a sex life they had.

Oh, and there are a lot of gay Marines.