You're very good at this, Steve. "Self-unaware" is a splendid turn of phrase that I will plagiarize at earliest opportunity.

But here is where you and I differ:

"I truly hate the toxicity that surrounds trans discourse. Which is why I think it’s so important to try to understand it."

I would change "try to understand" to "ignore" or something stronger. Years of online combat now feel like wasted time for me and even if I had once had your patience, seeing the odometer of age roll from 59 to 60 would have ended it. I don't know why you focus on the most hopeless and least reachable.

Because it was clear very early in the exchange that Stephen/anie is a virulently hostile person whose claims of "trans joy" and of belonging to a "community" are not exaggerations but lies. Nobody as hostile as he is could ever experience a moment of joy except maybe after getting someone banned, and he is far too self-centered to be a reciprocal part of any community.

This interlocutor supports the point of your article very well; why would anyone whose only exposure to this fad community* want to get closer to it? This person is repellent. And the backlash is growing.

*That Stephen/anie is not actually dysphoric is not proven but it is a statistically defensible presumption and his defensiveness is wholly at odds with self-acceptance. He's jumping aboard whatever bandwagon affording opportunities to play the victim.

Edit: I almost never continue engagement with people who use "lol" or "lmao" or any of those. That's just immature. I respond with "teenybopper" and answer no more.