In every relationship conflict, there are two levels of return:

Returning to your baseline — how fast do you get back to your emotional baseline?

Returning to the relationship — how fast do you repair?

There can’t be a second one without the first one.

But what if my partner doesn’t want to repair?

Then you probably need a deeper conversation about your needs and the direction of the relationship.

Both need alignment: you and the relationship.

That’s part of what coherence is about.