‘Even if you had wonderful parents, the journey to becoming is almost always one of having to revisit those bonds. Asking, who was my father and how did he love me? Who was my mother and how did she love me? How do I honour that love? How do I betray that love? How do I liberate myself from it so that I can become the person I’m meant to be? How do I return to it? How do I exile myself from it? Those are essential questions a lot of us have to ask as we grow up’