missionary exposes everything.

that's why you avoid it.

not the position.

the emotional equivalent of it.

the conversations where there's nowhere to hide.

where you'd have to be fully present.

fully seen.

without the version of yourself

you've been managing.

avoidance isn't always distance.

sometimes it's staying surface enough

that nothing real ever gets exposed.

real intimacy lives in the position

most people spend their whole lives

finding reasons to avoid.

— author