cheat code:

emotional stability isn't a personality trait.

it's a standard.

a trait is fixed. excused. worked around.

a standard is chosen. practiced. accountable.

calling instability a personality trait

is one of the most effective ways

to avoid accountability for it.

it reframes a choice as a condition.

and asks you to accommodate

what should actually be a minimum.

stability is a decision

made consistently over time.

— author