A BLACK man? Gasp! Where are my pearls to clutch at your evil racism? Lol. Your observations are spot-on. As a man, my gut reaction is treat males and females differently, and I generally act accordingly, but not always. Sadly, I first weigh the situation and decide whether or not my actions could be construed as sexist or insulting, and usually feel compelled to qualify my actions. ie "I'm sure you're very capable yourself, but I'd be happy to help if you'd like."