I can’t count the amount of times I’ve abandoned myself for the comfort of others. Told someone I’d go somewhere when I really didn’t want to, just not to disappoint them. It’s not that I didn’t want to go - I did! But it was for them, not for me. My mom used to tell me that I shouldn’t be so nice, because then people would walk all over me. I never got it. Why would a seemingly desirable trait end up in my own mistreatment? Well…hahaaaa I get it now. I am starting to understand that betraying yourself and your own boundaries only results in a slow erosion of self over time. Who wants that? NOT US!