I think that "attitude" comes from the idea that it's about malice and disrespect. My wife had been in America for a few days. We were in my aunt's car, she was driving, with my mom and uncle in the front seat. My wife and I were in the back seat. My uncle turned and looked right at me and started talking about "gooks." He was a Korean War veteran, and like many Vietnam veterans in those days that word got a lot of use. But he clearly meant it maliciously, leading me to the thought of ripping his eyeballs out and stuffing them up his ass. Out of respect to my mom and aunt I let it slide, but always despised the MF after that. 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐚 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐞, 𝐬𝐨 𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐜 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬. My feelings weren't hurt, but as a young man, fighting words called for a fight.