The whole idea of being an ally seems weird to me. If the behavior of the few puts you at war with an entire tribe, perhaps a tribe that I am thought to be a part of, why the hell would I want to be an ally in your war against me? A common knee-jerk to that is, "Go f yourself bigot!" With a number of Medium writers, as a white, heterosexual male I'm an evil mother **** by default.

I have always treated people with respect and formed friendships with people without regard to their ethnic, or even political tribe. That doesn't indicate that I agree with them, and I often express disagreement in a way that they might listen to and think. It's certainly not about hating them. Getting to know people and forming friendships is fatal to bigotry. It is possible that I've done more "work" and done more good than the virtue signaling whining SJWs who demand that members of the tribe they hold in disdain "do the work" that they don't define.

I have no way of knowing since I can only assess what has been within my reach if I have done more that is useful than them. It's not a contest, we can only do what we think is right. I'll admit that I find them tiresome and non-productive.