Perhaps my poor wording. I have always agreed with what you wrote, but I read Medium and have started to question the idea. It is a sea of expressed hatred for "allies" from within the offended tribe. They deny that it is hate and I can't read minds, but that seems to be modern thought. When someone says something to the effect of, "You are irredeemably a racist, sexist, x-phobe because you are a straight white male" aimed at me for membership in a group they despise, and then say I should join them in tearing down that group, what am I to think? Do they want my help, or do they just want to rant and criticize?

I realize that in many ways, Medium is the most toxic platform on the internet, perhaps because it goes beyond the short attention span, fits on a bumper sticker platforms like twitter so I shouldn't let that make me think it is representative of people in general. I also realize that I'm as guilty as anyone about seeing many so-called allies as disingenuous virtue signalers, so I have my issues too. I don't need the appreciation of those I wish to help, but in this day in age am I actually helpful if that is how I am viewed?