That's what I thought the was about until you told me about the word. I guess I'll just give that a pass.

I don't remember the story. Google sent me to this, not a full page ad. https://www.nytimes.com/1994/02/07/opinion/l-the-war-is-over-107182.html

There are lots of strong feelings about that war. I have quite a few Vietnamese friends. We never discuss the war with the exception of the man who told me about his father and his escape after the war. Not the war, but the price of losing.

I don't know if you've watched the PBS Burns-Novick "The Vietnam War" 10 episode, 15 hour documentary. I needed a box of tissues to watch it, very emotional. I found hearing the thoughts of my old enemies worthwhile but agree with my veteran friends that he was too easy on them. I mention it because none of my Vietnamese friends would watch it. I'll never know what they think of me for my participation. I've been called a murderer, but never by a Vietnamese person. Since you did not participate in that war have they discussed it with you?