Another case of opinions based on a small view of a subset that gets people's attention. The only "trans"-somethings I have known were in a different environment from yours. Different vantage points.

The dishonesty of people impersonating women that you encountered may be a part of your view of "trans" in general although I have no doubt that you, like me, understand the influence of loud subsets beyond their true representation of the mean of a group.