I met my wife on a dating app.

The most important thing to do is as soon as you feel like you’ve clicked a little, ask her to meet up in person. If you drag it out longer than even a week on a dating app, that’s too long. You need to meet them in person as soon as you can and know if they’re worth it.

The first date with my wife was a drink at a local bar near me. Then we ended up going out to the 4am bars. The next day, I was planning to tailgate at a big ten football game the next day and invited her.

She had plans with another friend to go to a NBA game with someone but blew them off to go with me. She later told me that she told her friend, “I had a good date with this guy and he could be the person I marry.”

I didn’t have tickets to the game but bought them last minute when she decided to come and we had an amazing time.

The truth is in the matter, I almost blew off our first date. I was working 12-14 hour days at my job and wanted a night off from everything.

However, it’s in my ethos as a person to never cancel on someone unless it’s a true emergency so I went anyways, despite having worked 65 hours that week. I’m so glad that I didn’t. She never would have went out with me again if I canceled.

Fast forward, because I met my future wife and moved in with her. My old roommates moved. One of my other roommates moved to an apartment next door to someone who had just got out of a relationship and they met.

She became his future wife.

If I never met my future wife, my best friend may have never met his. Life can be truly serendipitous if you just make the right choices when they come.