Even in my case where there was a legal battle, Vox is completely right. I'm happier and my life has turned out better in every way. Additionally, the courts were actually fair in their decisions regarding my child (your mileage may vary, but just fight and don't be a coward and things will turn out).

My wife is ten years younger and a superior woman in every respect to my first wife. The best part? The schadenfreude I've enjoyed watching my ex wife destroy her life has been glorious. Seriously. She abandoned a 6'2" chef, classical pianist, drummer, fit and athletic confident man. What did she end up with?

A short, bald, Trans man. You can't make this up. She's poor, working like a dog, and not making ends meet because I don't even pay child support since I have our child more than she does. She destroyed her life with a tactical nuke and turned into a caricature of the typical blue haired feminist whale.

Meanwhile I have 4 more children with my new wife and we have bought a house. We live in the country and I've never been happier in all my life. It's wasn't easy, but looking back, it's been one of the most rewarding battles going through my divorce and remarrying.

The future belongs to the people who show up for it. Either you'll win big by having a happy marriage your whole life. Or you'll win big by getting out of a bad marriage and finding someone far better. In either case, marriage is not only worth it, but a completely essential part of a happy life. Get out there and make it happen.