I have been married for 25 years and I consider my marriage to be one of the best things in my life. I got married when I was twenty two, I wasn't pregnant. It was a conscious choice that I have never regretted. It is not true that marriage must mean the end of self-realization. In my case, on the contrary, my husband encourages me and supports me, thanks to which I can study philosophy at the university. I must say that the narrative you write about is very sad and I think it is harmful to both women and men. I will add that no one is telling them the truth that delaying marriage and parenthood has its great disadvantages. My children are practically adults, so both my husband and I have time and opportunities to fully consciously enjoy life. Looking at my friends who decided to have children late, I really feel sorry for them. Being about fifty years old and taking care of small children is difficult.you can't change the fact that we get older and the energy we have as parents in our twenties or thirties will never be the same when you're in your forties. Many late parents I know complain about fatigue, envy the time that people with adult children have for themselves. To say that they went wild in their youth is little consolation, because now they have the better material means and life experience to enjoy life to the full. Unfortunately, small children make this impossible. Looking at myself and other parents of adult children and our peers with small children, I see that the decision to become a late parent is highly overrated. This applies to both women and men.