Saying that wives owe their husbands sex or else they'll cheat is like saying husbands owe their wives that expensive designer bag or else she’ll open a secret credit card and get into debt to buy it, or if he doesn't agree with the kitchen renovations she wants, she’ll just grab a sledgehammer and break everything anyway.

Your spouse not giving you what you want isn't an excuse to commit a transgression. If you’re not getting as much sex as you'd like to, there are a hundred honest things you can try first -- alongside your wife, not behind her back -- before resorting to cheating or threatening to cheat.