Towards the end of the evening, someone asked Esther what is bad therapy. Of course you have to find the right fit, but, it’s not necessarily going for a style that you would feel comfortable with. As she says “If you love to talk, you should not do talk therapy. If you are very active and move around, you need to sit still and don’t do anything for two minutes.” The point being, there needs to be friction to grow. It’s something we all need to be reminded of — and with those who are familiar with her work, we know that she thinks friction is a good thing. In romantic relationships, she urges couples to look at the form of conflict rather than just the content. At work, perhaps we need to do the same.