Parenting is hard but Adlerian methods which have been used for a long time now bridge the issues pretty well. You can show respect for the kids, but DEMAND respect from them.

The fail many are trying to avoid is "because I said those are the rules" parenting. But where they lose is letting the kid then make the rules. Make good rules and *explain* why they are the rules. And it's perfectly fine in Adlerian to say "the rule is we are not going to be late for school, so in one minute your choices are get in the car or I pick you up and put you in the car."

Holding the line often means you defend the line exactly one time.