I'm just going to reply to the video for now, the rest of it later when I have more time (I don't disagree with you much). WOW! That was an awesome, eye-opening video! I just bookmarked it so I can go back and read the comments to better understand the men's perspective. I was on Tinder for about a half a day when it first launched and I uninstalled it because it was a HUGE energy suck on my mobile. Before I did I checked to see who had swiped on me and it was like fucking EVERYBODY. And I was a 49-year-old woman, perhaps the oldest on the site. And I was getting all these young guys. Now, I *can* get younger men, and I'm not averse to that, but not guys under 30. Like guys in their mid-to-late twenties had wiped I don't know, whichever way was a match. And I was like, seriously? Are you fucking kidding me? And I realized they were just swiping right, I think it was, on everyone. I figured they were just maximizing their opps to get laid and I'm not sure I wasn't wrong; Tinder has notoriously been a hookup app, and I think that was the one Nancy Jo Sales used in her book on dating apps I read (turned it into a great Medium article that got some claps and comments). She is a year younger than I and like me, still pretty decent-looking for her age.

Now I'm beginning to understand the 'throwing spaghetti at the wall' thing you always seem to get from guys. I wonder - maybe someone else can answer this? - how much you really can put on your profile. Good photos are always helpful, but when I've been on dating apps (I never went back to Tinder because of its rep) I've always been aggravated by the lack of anything else - just the basic questions answered about looks - hair colour, eye colour, height, weight - and nothing about who they are, what they like, what they're looking for. It's a bummer because I *do* want to know that stuff. And I know guys don't read profiles because many have said they don't, esp when I said, "You'd know the answer to that if you'd read my profile." "I don't read profiles." I tried making my profiles really funny to encourage them to read, and that helped a bit, also it showed my sass and personality, but I also would stick something really weird but non-threatening in it that they would surely comment on ("Do you really have a pet gila monster?" "No, I just wanted to see who actually read that far!")

I wonder if more niche-oriented sites are better for men who aren't Ryan Reynolds (who frankly I think is nice-looking but I honestly don't think I'd swipe right on him if I saw someone like him on an app, he's not all that and a bag of chips). I've considered it myself, to try and eliminate a lot of the dross. Lately I've been wondering if there are guys who are minimalist I could meet as I'm nearing retirement and won't have tons of money to retire on but I don't need tons, I lead a simple life and aren't much materialistic and have already done a lot of my traveling - which is a lot more expensive now.

This really is worth delving into more. I'm off for the next two days as I do sales work and all my campaigns are US-based and I'm looking forward to the four-day weekend, having done Thanksgiving this past weekend with my bro and his fam. Tomorrow morning the comments of that video will be my breakfast reading, just as the video was this morning. Thanks for this fantastic look into what it's like for men. Wow. Just Wow!