Yeah, it usually comes 'bubbling up' when they don't like where the conversation is going. It's supposed to be the mic drop. And it was, when I was younger, until I realized it was likely a subtle bullying tactic, and it happened so much I began privately questioning its truth to myself. I'm hardly trying to control the conversation; I'm trying to keep it moving forward despite this unnecessary information.

Yes, I know rape and sexual abuse are common, but not as much as we may think, especially today when the meanings of words like 'rape', 'sexual assault' and 'violence' have become broadened to the point where they don't mean much anymore. And now, with the anonymity of social media, women can lie about rape if they want, and no one knows, nor do they run the risk of repercussions unless they name names. When MeToo got so popular, I'd scroll through the 'confessions' and sometimes wonder if some of them were making it up to get some (anonymous) attention for themselves, feel good about joining the sisterhood, maybe scoring a few political points. Just this morning I read about two women who out-and-out lied about rape testimony they gave in Take Back The Night marches in the '90s. And I began to really suspect some of today's me-too stories when I encountered a young woman on Medium a few years ago who rattled off her list of alleged sexual abuses almost proudly, as though she was listing her academic accomplishments. It lacked the authenticity I've seen with so many other stories. It was the first time I ever thought, "You are out-and-out lying."

So yeah, I think there's a lot more rape lying going on than we know and we can't know for sure, although hey're mostly 'harmless' when they don't name any innocent men. That's a highly uncomfortable thought for a lot of women to digest, that other women may make up stories to be part of the 'sisterhood', score points or just try to one-up others in conversation. That's what I think this gal was doing to Steve, trying to shut down the conversation with a mic drop. Except it didn't work, and I'm glad. It wasn't even relevant to the conversation.

Anyone who thinks women don't lie has never known any women. We're no better than men. No worse, but no better.