Become people’s safe space by controlling your reaction when you witness them being humiliated or confessing something embarrassing. Many people’s nervous systems are fried from being raised by reactive parents. The reason people keep their struggles or shameful moments secret, with compounding detrimental long-term effects, is because they still have the emotional composition of a toddler eager to please their elders. If you want to enshrine emotional resilience in someone, model stoic acceptance of life’s rollercoaster. Whatever it is, we will work through it.