Women are not the “fixers” of broken behavior.

You are not here to teach grown men how to be respectful. You are not their coach for basic decency.

So much of the cultural dating advice women get has us all out there bending over backwards doing benefit-of-the-doubt gymnastics, quietly training us to accommodate bad behavior.

Burn the Haystack refuses to normalize bad behavior, no matter how unassuming, and protects your peace by refusing the endless loop of second and third chances.

When a whole group of women stops putting up with bad behavior, the whole dating marketplace has to recalibrate on what it rewards.