Regarding "soft bois." I had a similar insight visiting a museum dedicated to revolutionary martyrs--not of the privileged luxury-loving "soft" bois kind, but young idealists who fuelled the early urban stages of the Chinese revolution.

The Shanghai Martyrs Museum celebrates the lives of the youthful, predominantly urban Communists executed by the Nationalists and the Japanese during the 1920s-40s. Most were students. Their portraits are on display. Boys and girls. They look so young! Many died in their early 20s.

I had a overwhelming sense of the youthful educated idealism that can fuel a revolution. But like those idealists, the affluent modern poseurs won't survive a real revolution. The ruthless, tough-guys will--many of them angry "workers" and "peasants" whose only schooling has been leading rough lives and experiencing life's hard-knocks.