Nice! I love hearing your personal approach and workarounds, bee! It shows how each position/industry/role has unique flexibility to accommodate for where it's stricter. I also would schedule emails to be sent later, and carried a notebook with me at all times, to appear like the busier version of myself. I never thought to myself that OTHER people might be doing this too. :) And the interplay between designing your alternative work style by ALSO accommodating both partner's/spouse's needs is important to call out. It's so much easier (and effective) when the system can be for the partnership too.

You got me here too. This is my wound.

"The irony of understanding others and accommodating them with deep care and consideration only to never experience that myself ain't lost on me."