Be silly. Embrace whimsy. Use your male privilege for good by not taking yourself too seriously. Positive masculinity isn’t about being less masculine; it’s about being more conscious of masculinity’s effects. Silliness isn’t a cure for toxic masculinity (lest we look at all the silly men who have done terrible things). Nor is it a complete answer to what positive masculinity should be. But it’s a tool in our toolbelt that helps us be more vulnerable, sensitive, and self-aware. If women carry knives and pepper spray on their key chains, then men can carry silliness in their pockets. And fortunately, men’s pants have pretty big pockets.