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I am also suspicious of performative humility; publicly declaring your humility doesn’t feel like humility to me. Moreover, I don’t think I want an artist to be humble, anyway; there seems to be a sense that the options are “humble” and “asshole,” and I don’t accept that. I think you can have great confidence in your writing or other artistic ability, esp if you’ve earned it though hard work, while still not putting yourself on some pedestal. I try to do it this way— I always remember there are things I can not do, and many others are doing them. I also believe that artistic accomplishment is ultimately just another thing to work hard at, and I don’t consider any of my areas of expertise to be more important than any other thing people can work hard at. Why should any writer see themselves as more worthy than people repairing the roads, or bussing the tables? And I don’t see this as humility on my part. It’s more like table stakes.

This is very useful: claiming to have imposter syndrome is the narcissist’s best friend. It simultaneously suggests that you’re humble (I don’t deserve this!) and ensures that people will celebrate you (“honey, you are so talented and accomplished and deserving!) It’s a very, very post-collegiate striving class I-was-always-the-smartest move. “He who humbles himself wishes to be exalted.”

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