Adolescence misses the mark in attributing the push to incel culture as originating from female peers like Katie. It’s all the more troubling because Katie is not only an unlikely source of Jamie’s exposure to incel culture: she’s also his victim. Yes, it is true that boys and men who perpetrate misogynistic violence are often in pain themselves, and that they often perceive their victims as wrongdoers. But the usual dynamic involves no more than that: perception. In standard cases of incel violence, the victims have done nothing wrong. They are perceived as having sinned because of a potent sense of male entitlement and female obligation. It’s not that she actually owes him sex and love and admiration; it’s that he feels illicitly entitled to these goods. It’s not that she has actually let him down: it’s that he feels betrayed because he falsely felt he owned her. It’s not that she has actually bullied him: it’s that he is fragile, volatile, and takes everything far too personally.