My wife Holly Kaiser and I have been married 23 years and together 25 (half of our lives!). On our anniversary we talked about what we’d tell our newlywed selves if we could. Among them:

1. You’ll have multiple marriages to each other over the years as you both change and grow.

2. You’ll only be happy together when your own happiness doesn’t depend on the other person.

3. Passion starts the fire, but friendship keeps it burning.