I agree this situation is much worse for women than it is for men. In general you find fewer male zealots, men are more willing to debate, get angry, and then find common ground and make up. Women are more likely to cut you off permanently, and to try to ostracize you from their groups.
Great read, our situation is similar to the author’s. I’m closeted, my husband is not. In my experience this is largely due to gender dynamics. My husband can talk politics with his liberal guy friends. If my female liberal friends knew I leaned conservative, some would stop talking to me. I keep quiet because I enjoy their company …