I'm constantly flabbergasted at the signs that people don't see! FB memories reminded me of an exchange in a widow's group I'm no longer in.

Him: What are your perceptions on an ideal relationship?

Her: I already had the perfect relationship! Starting over again has been so hard. Sorry to do this, but I'm leaving for work. Can I text you after my interview?

Him: Me too. It's hard trying all over again, but I really need a woman at home and in my life. I travel a lot and need a good woman with a good heart that can manage my home perfectly and very romantic.

Some people got it, but just as many told me they didn't see anything amiss, either in his word choices -or the content. They defended him and (tried) to make me feel like I was picking apart a good man.

And now that I'm better versed in BDHM, I also note that she was apologizing to a stranger for having a life/commitments other than him.

I left that group because there was a LOT of shizz like this.