Hey Christine, thank you for writing. I think all sentient beings with democratic values are experiencing some flavor of the "stumbling around looking for survivors" you mention and disorientation as we figure out what to do next. Personally, I am finding that my community of friends and activists and even not-so-activists is grounding. I believe the work will be more difficult and there will be less of a sense of immediate gratification, but it is no less important than before. On the contrary!
It seems useful to find some people to be around and ask and answer these questions with. I found a kickoff call from a national group called Indivisible to be practical, realistic, and inspiring. I decided that as I try to discern where to apply myself in a concentrated way, I will take the lead of local groups for activities anyone can do -- to be a worker bee. There are things people in blue and red states can do to make a difference.
Please let me know what you think of the video, and feel free to private message me.
Youtube transcript of Indivisible's kickoff call: youtube.com/watch?v=db-…
Also, their homepage contains links to find a local group, create a group as needed, and find or register events. indivisible.org In my area (Connecticut) some of the local links don't work, but it is easy enough to find the groups on Facebook or in other places.