I love this. I was able to reestablish my self-respect when I drew a bright line against seeking approval from people who didn't bother to try to know or understand me. This works for anyone - family, community, whomever. You can't control what other people do. You CAN control how you react to what they do. You always have a choice in that sense - even when you are triggered you have choices. One of the ways out of PTSD is to realize that you have choices even in the midst of a triggering episode. Practice choosing to build emotional resilience.