Denying yourself a proper funeral is cruelty to the living.

A funeral provides closure. It gives people permission to move on. Funerals can be painful. They're supposed to be painful, like purifying a wound. Without a ceremony of some kind, people can walk around with a tumor for the rest of their lives.

Remember, deep down, the funeral isn't about you. It isn't for the dead. It's for the living.

It is good to go to the house of mourning. Why would you deny something good for your loved ones?