Your wife doesn't need a perfect husband. She needs one who acts like a man.

Three things that will change your marriage faster than any counselor:

1. Make decisions without asking permission. Plan a date. Book it. Tell her when to be ready. She married a man, not an intern awaiting approval.

2. Stop vomiting your emotions onto her. Vulnerability has its place, but emotional incontinence only makes things messy. She cannot be your therapist and your lover.

3. Fix something broken in your house. Anything. A squeaky door. A leaky faucet. A nail pop on the ceiling. Change the brakes on your car. YouTube the solution. The point is not fixing some plumbing for cheap, even though that's nice. Rather, prove you'll struggle with something difficult instead of outsourcing it.