I wonder if one of the reasons why some women like “bad boys” and some men like bpd women, is because with such people you often skip over the initial tense/anxious aspects of relationships, since they are far less caring about boundaries and have no issue being personal (including over what they say about themselves) compared to more normie people

Maybe that’s one of the reasons why people like social media as well, people seem often much more willing (whether to their audience or in general) to get more personal than they would with someone they’ve recently met