Most men’s dating and relationship advice talks like you need to be significantly above average in a bunch of respects to find love. And this just seems wrong to me. I know tons of men in happy relationships who violate many of these rules. Who aren’t suave, or fit, or always confident, or skilled at flirting.

A lot of this kind of dating advice feels a bit predatory to me. It’s always telling you you’re not good enough, and you always have to keep reading to discovers the secrets that will make you be good enough.