I offer this:

Self-love isn't a skill to be mastered or a set of affirmations to be repeated. If you’re trying to use your mind to convince yourself you’re lovable, you’ve already lost. The mind is a judging machine—it’s the source of the problem, not the solution.

When we witness the mind, we realize that we are not the mind, and we don’t need to buy what the mind is selling.

We come to know ourselves as the witness, the awareness, the consciousness. That self is inherently loving. No learning is needed.