This was the early to mid 2010s. Women were being fed very obviously untrue things about attraction: that it didn’t matter what you looked like, any man who didn’t find you attractive for some physical reason was a jerk, that men weren’t even important at all, and if you wanted or needed a relationship with a man you needed to “get therapy.” We were supposed to say “fuck you and the patriarchy” the minute we were asked to do anything that sounded vaguely gendered.