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The most important factors that contributed to my healing from chronic psychological and emotional abuse:
Believing Jesus is my Lord and Savior. Not just knowing about Him — surrendering to Him. Letting Him define truth (John 14:6).
Letting a trusted friend pray over me. Humbling myself enough to receive prayer when I felt weak (James 5:16).
Going to church weekly — even when I couldn’t focus or understand the sermons. Showing up anyway. Letting worship and Scripture wash over me (Hebrews 10:25).
Realizing I had no self-control and that my repressed trauma was spilling onto my children. That conviction was painful — but it was mercy (Romans 8:1). God exposed the fruit to heal the root.
Admitting I was powerless and asking God to lead my healing. I stopped trying to manage everything with medication, therapy, alcohol. His grace met me in my weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
Reading the Bible from front to back. Seeing the full character of God, not isolated verses. Letting His Word renew my mind (Romans 12:2).
Learning my identity in Christ… unlearning my identity in abuse. I am not what was done to me. I am a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17). Chosen and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12). Abuse labeled me. Jesus renamed me.
Learning not to internalize what others said about me or their reactions to my pain as truth. Not every accusation is accurate. Not every discomfort is conviction. I learned to measure words against Scripture, not projections (Psalm 119:160).
Reprocessing childhood trauma with an attachment-focused trauma therapist. Bringing my wounded child parts into the safety of my competent adult self. Letting my nervous system learn that the danger was over. Allowing truth and safety to replace shame and fear. God used wise counsel as part of my healing (Proverbs 11:14).
Receiving prayer and deliverance from mature believers who addressed generational patterns, spiritual oppression, and unhealthy soul ties. Not hype. Not theatrics. But biblically grounded freedom. “Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom” (2 Corinthians 3:17). Breaking agreement with lies. Renouncing what was not from God. Letting truth sever what trauma had bound. (Shout out to Kevin E Beasley and his team!)
Removing myself from environments that kept reopening wounds. Guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23). Safety is wisdom.
Understanding that forgiveness is something the Holy Spirit grows… not something I could force. Healing softened my heart. Forgiveness followed (Romans 2:4). I continue to pray for those I love that wounded me daily.
Healing wasn’t instant, and I believe it’s still ongoing. It was surrender layered over surrender, but something I had to learn to do. It was Jesus restoring my name, my mind, and my motherhood. And I will never go back to believing abuse gets to define me. Thank you, Jesus!