“You don't have a time management problem. You have a self-worth problem.”

That’s what I told a pastor who hired me for a half-day intensive.

The guy was exhausted. He was running a church. Building a non-profit. And trying to be present for his family.

3 massive commitments, all demanding more and more of him.

He told me, “I need to get better at time management. How do I structure my week so I can do all of this?”

I told him, “We're not wasting time on that conversation.”

Because as we started mapping things out, the real issue showed up fast. He couldn't say no to anyone. His investors. His staff. His congregation. His family. He needed all of them to be happy with him. 

If someone wasn't happy, he felt like he'd failed.

I asked him, “What's stopping you from saying ‘no’ and making some of these commitments smaller?”

Everything that came out of his mouth was about other people. I don't want to let them down. They need access to me. If I pull back, they'll think I don't care.

This isn't a scheduling problem. This is a “worth” problem.

He was attaching his sense of worth to his ability to say yes and create value for others.

I told him, “Until you deal with what you believe about your own value, you're always going to be overcommitted and overwhelmed.”

No planner is going to fix that. No system is going to fix that. No productivity hack on earth is going to fix that.

If you’re a Primal Question #6, the same is true for you.

You already have inherent worth and immense value.

Until you accept this truth, you will burn yourself out trying to earn something you already possess.