I actually talked about this post with a white woman I am well-acquainted with today, and she was receptive to what I had to say.

She was very sorry for connecting me with the white woman who used the word Nigger around me, understood why it’s hard for me to forge close connections with white folks, admitted her own blind spots, and told me that she is willing to listen, learn, and do the work. We had a fruitful conversation which was helpful for both of us.

In contrast, it’s interesting how many white folks on this platform have responded by attempting to blast me out, force their unsolicited opinions down my throat, blame me for the racism I experience, and patronizingly tell me how to handle situations that they have never had to deal with themselves. I have never had more people share my work with the intention of bringing negative attention to my page than I have today, setting me up as a target and judging me for being honest.

I say this because I have seen how White folks are capable of doing better, and some actually do better if they have humility and genuine openness and commitment. In turn, they are able to forge genuine human connections with people of different races and become more well-rounded people. 

However most choose to stay defensive, remain in their little bubble, and continue dehumanizing black folks, and that is why they are only capable of having superficial, dishonest relationships with us at best. 

I am only writing what many people in my community will not bother to say out loud because they don’t want to deal with your hatred, spinelessness, and endless vitriol. Don’t shoot the messenger. 

I’m aware that most of my audience is white, and most subscribe for superficial reasons. 

I will keep writing about my experiences with racism as much as I want and I will not hold back, even and especially if it means I whittle my subscriber count down to a far smaller number than it is now, and even if it means I lose money. I don’t mind. I’ll build my audience back up with people who can receive me. 

You are dealing with a woman who is the subject of a massive witch hunt. I make worldly sacrifices to speak truth to power and create my work. I’m unbought and unbossed, and I didn’t get here by kissing ass and trying to make people happy.

The writings you celebrate came from the same mind, heart, and human experience as the writings you hate, and it shows just how fake and dissociated you are for not respecting that. 

If you don’t like what I have to say then don’t read it, but also don’t expect me to give you a lick of my personal time in exchange for spewing your hatred and disappointment. You won’t get anymore than a block or a ban. ✌🏾🙏🏾✌🏾